Some people just seem to find life easy, and bounce from one accomplishment to another. Whereas there are also those who live at the other end of the spectrum, and make a mess of everything they do. So we have the victorious and the victimised – and they can generally be differentiated by their attitudes.
It’s essential when working on a weight loss program to adopt the habits of the victor to accomplish the right outcome. Feebly attempting a weight-loss plan without taking responsibility for the outcome will put you in the ‘victim’ camp. And yet for a victor it’s all in the bag from the beginning.
Let’s envision we’re on court for a tennis finale. We listen to the players before the start – One player says the outcome is now in the lap of the gods, whereas his opponent states “I am destined to be the champion!” Who’s most likely to succeed?
If we split up the word OAR we have the definition of a victor – someone who takes Ownership of his/her task, is Accountable for their actions and assumes Responsibility for getting it done. ‘Bed’ can be used to describe a victim who remains in bed because he’s given up! B is for blame, E is for excuses and D is for denial.
The victor ‘owns’ his own tasks, and doesn’t hope for someone else to take the lead. He’s liable for his actions, and so he takes account of them (seeing things through by dealing with problems not making problems). He’s responsible for the results of his actions, and so doesn’t take excuses from himself.
The victim always has a reason for not achieving, and it’s rarely to do with him or herself. Slip-ups and blunders are never down to him; he assumes no control and so no responsibility. He makes excuses for under-performing, not realising the only person he’s convincing is himself. After repeating this cycle of excuses and blame for a while, the victim is in denial. He’s absolutely convinced that there isn’t anything he can do to change things.
To stack the odds in their favour, a mental work-out may be needed for some dieters approaching a life-changing eating program. Adopting the victim’s outlook will prevent a person from controlling the outcome.
Continual positive repetition will change a victim’s attitude to that of a victor. Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself – if you sound like a victim, then stop dead! Instead, mentally verbalise why you can be successful. Nobody else is superior to you – some have just conquered their victimisation thinking and achieved their success.
“There is no such thing as a hero, only those who rise to the occasion”. Those were the words of Winston Churchill, and they’re just as valid today. We have to have the mind-set of a winner in order to achieve the weight we want ourselves to be.
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